How To Be a Great Friend
You have your friends, acquaintances, and enemies. Below are my five steps to obtaining and/or keeping any relationship strong:
1. Show Great Kindness
This is a given. For the best relationships, you must be respectful to other people. Everyone needs someone to depend on for constant sweetness!
2. Be Positive
We all have those days where we feel hopeless, like there's no where to turn to escape troubles. If you see a friend --or anyone for that matter-- who is having a rough time, be that person they can talk to for a brighter day! Gleam on, you positive person!
3. Have Honesty
This is crucial. Many say it's better to be silent than to tell a lie. That's true in most situations. If you have negative, hurtful feelings, keep quiet. If there is something that they need to know, however, don't hesitate to tell them in the most sensitive way possible. Pull them into a private area then sincerely approach them with the situation. Trust me, they'll be happy you were honest with them.
4. Do Not Brag
No matter where you are or who you're around, bragging is never okay. Some might smile and laugh along, and others might put on a facade with you if you do brag (when really feeling envious and upset). Don't gloat if you have something others don't. Be humble and thankful for what you have. Certainly don't be a jerk about it.
5. Most Importantly, Listen
This step seems simple, but not a lot of people do this the best way. When your friend is feeling poorly, there is no better cure to their pain than a listening friend. Be empathetic, not sympathetic. When giving them advice for their troubles, never use the phrase "at least" or compare your situation with theirs. Contrasting is okay if done correctly and if you have been in their shoes. When contrasting, try saying something like, "I understand how you feel. I was in a similar situation and [insert your advice for getting out of it]." If you can not relate/contrast, listen to them, then when they're finished, say something along the lines of, "I am so sorry to hear that. It sounds very difficult. Although I have not been in a similar situation as you and do not know any advice for your situation, I want you to know that you are strong, you will get out of this, and I am here any time you need to talk to someone." Maybe offer to then help them with any favors, like carrying their books or giving them a ride somewhere. Assure them that if they need anything they can contact you. This gives them comfort when most comfort seems gone.
Well, those have been my five steps to a brilliant friendship. I hope you found this helpful. Please feel free to ask any questions or leave any comments below or in the subscription box! Thanks so much for reading. Now go out there and be the best friend you can be!